Everyone needs a little time to themselves, especially when you’re a mom. But getting some time alone isn’t always easy when you have kids. If you’re looking for a little extra “mom time” to have a break and take care of yourself, it’s best to keep your kids busy while you focus on yourself for a few hours. You don’t have to sit your kids in front of the TV or let them play with your smartphone or tablet just to keep them occupied. There are all kinds of activities your kids will enjoy that don’t include screens. Keep your kids busy with these fun DIY at-home games and activities.
Clever Ways to Get More “Mom Time”
Arrange a Scavenger Hunt
Putting together a scavenger hunt is a great way to keep your kids occupied for a few hours. Find some prizes that will put a smile on your kids’ face like a few pieces of candy, trail mix, small toys, and other kid-friendly items. Put them in a few Smelly Proof storage bags to keep the prizes clean and sanitary and then hide them around the house or your backyard. If you really want to get creative, you can leave your kids clues to point them in the right directions. You can put together a fun-filled afternoon in just a few minutes.
Make Homemade Slime
Kids always seem to go crazy for slime, putty, and other gooey objects. They can mash it, sculpt it, and even make funny little creatures and characters. Find a recipe for homemade slime and watch their imagination take flight. All you need is some glue, baking soda, shaving cream, water, and a little contact solution or something similar. Find a tabletop for your kids to experiment with their new ooze and see what they create. When they’re finished playing, put the slime in some Smelly Proof storage bags for safe-keeping. They’re puncture resistant, so you don’t have to worry about slime oozing out of the bag.
Play a Sorting Game
This is a great idea for younger kids, usually under the age of five. Find a large number of different items like buttons, marbles, pieces of fabric, or stones and have your kids sort them according to color, shape, size, texture, etc. You can teach your kids about the different colors of the rainbow, why some textures feel different than others, and what makes one object different than the others, helping them hone their vocabulary and learn new information. Once they’re finished sorting, keep these items in a series of Smelly Proof storage bags, so can play another day again.
Bring Out the Balloons
Trying to get your kids to blow off some steam? Help them inflate a few balloons and have them play the balloon game. Everyone has to keep hitting the balloon to make sure it doesn’t touch the ground. It’s a great game to play indoors or out, just make sure you clear away any valuables you have lying around. You can keep your balloons in some Smelly Proof storage bags, so they won’t get lost or dirty lying around the house.
You can entertain your kids without screens if you use your imagination. While they play, you can relax, do some chores, or catch up on that book you’ve meant to read. Buy some Smelly Proof storage bags and let the games begin!
There is no love stronger than the love a parent feels for their child. When you have children, being in a relationship with a partner can get complicated. When that relationship grows to the next level, it is not just you who is getting “married.” It is a family commitment.
No matter how much your child loves your new partner, there will be adjustments. A child doesn’t know how to express the fears they have. They do not know how to tell you that they don’t know where they fit in anymore.
This is why it is important to explain what is happening and why. Things will inevitably change to include new family members.
You said yes!
He popped the question and you said yes. Hopefully, you have allowed enough time to help the children understand how living arrangements and marriage works. When it is time to plan the wedding, include every member of the family. There are plenty of ways a child can help. Talk with them and see if any ideas seem to spark interest.
Below we will suggest several options that allow you to include the children. Try to find ways to contribute to the wedding.
A second proposal
Each adult should set aside time to ask the children if they will let you share your life. Understand, you may not get a resounding “Yes!” Depending on the age of the kid, you might even get a flat “No!” This s why you should think of the words you are going to use. Ask your partner for their help.
Put them in the wedding
Are they able to serve a bridesmaid, flower girl, Junior Bride, or escort for the grandparents?
Can they pass out gift baskets and programs? Can they give out the rice packages?
Help your child to create a special signature drink. Think Shirley Temple (7-Up and Cherries) in a punch bowl. Try 7UP Sherbert punch. If your little one can handle a ladle and punch cup, they can serve the punch to the guests.
Helium Balloon Send-Off
Station your child at the exits handing out balloons. Be sure to have the weights on the ribbon (the vendor will prepare them) so they will not fly away. Your child can then easily handle the balloons.
A sand ceremony is a perfect way to include your children. There is no hard and fast rule about when the ceremony happens, but it is normally done just before or just after the vows. There is a central crystal vase centered on a table. The groom has a bottle of sand of a particular color. The bride will have sand of another color. Give your child (children) sand of their own color. The groom pours his sand into the central vase saving, saving ½ of the sand.
The bride adds her sand on top of the grooms sand. Then the child or children add their individual colors. At this point, the family pours in the rest of their sand into the central vase. This symbolizes the blending of each person to create a new life.
Buy them an instant camera and film. Let them take their own pictures. You can give them a photo album to put together when you are making yours
Allow them to serve by handing the guests cake
There are many ways to include your child and make your wedding a family celebration. The most important thing is communication. Let your child have a voice and consider them in your plans. As long as you show compassion and understanding, you and your child will get through the wedding just fine.
This awesome article is from our friend Lauren from daintymom.com.
Small children, big obligations – all parents will agree with this. Life with young children is chaotic, unpredictable, stressful, full of sleepless nights …
Nights are long.
When you finally return home, with the hospital bracelet on your wrist, and your sweet newborn cries all night. When you try everything you know to calm down, and nothing works, and at the end, the expected tears of joy will turn into tears of frustration and exhaustion.
When you sway, you calm down and sing lullabies, and everything is in vain, and the cradle that you chose with so much attention is empty, while you walk through the house, rustling, and drenching, praying that the dream will come.
When the temperature is high, his eyes that always dance with pleasure are tired and lifeless. When his little body is overwhelmed by illness, and you do not know what is wrong. When you call for emergency medical help, or you search for symptoms online, you will be scared.
When we lie awake at night and wonder if our little ones have friends at school, our bodies have been exhausted since the day, but questions still stir our mind: did they adapt, are they happy, have we learned enough things to deal with these new experiences?
When those who once filled our back seat with more questions and songs than our ears could bear, now, a few years later, browsing in their phone silently. When their eyes that were once full of excitement and laughter are now turning up more often than we want, and we are wondering if everything is fine in their world. We try, but sometimes we feel unable to find a way to the essence of things.
When she goes out to a loving meeting, and you are wondering if there will be enough everything she has learned and all the conversations you have had. When he comes out with his friends, and you will hope that he will be a leader, not a follower. When everything is packaged in the car, and your eyes meet once again with her through the window for the last time before she leaves home.
Yes, the nights are long.
But the years?
Oh, the years are short.
When that little one that ever slept in the cradle is too long for her, and you put it in the crib.
When the smallest handle that ever tightens your finger, I will let your hand go quickly and leave on the first day in a kindergarten.
When our babies who ever jumped, hugged and filled their hands with our hair, they begin to bend, correct and stylize their hair.
When the one you thought he would never sleep, you would sleep until noon if you allowed him.
When the hand, which seems to you like yesterday to learn to wave while telling you to say: “PA-PA”, now you waving for goodbye and leaving the car.
When our little ones will become big; When our path becomes their way; When our love stretches to the extent of pain …
We will remember …
That the nights were very long, but the years are very short.
Screams and yells are quite common for someone who is close to an individual with autistic traits. It can be due to rage as well as tears.
Often they burst open to uncontrolled screams due to situations that would have been average for normal kids. At times, it is in the solace of their homes, and at other times, it is also in public. Till date, a misconception prevailed among the parents of autistic children to consider that these screams, tantrums, and meltdowns are a result of poor communication and verbal skills.
It was quite typical for them to consider that these tantrums were an outcome of rising frustration due to their disability to effectively communicate their feelings.
But this is not exactly true. It is common for autistic parents to face such situations but what matters the most is how well they can deal with it.
How to Reduce the Screams in an Autistic Individual
The best way to help reduce autistic screams is by paying attention to improving their behavior. Speech and language problems would surely develop over time, but it can be a tough job to improve their behavior. It may also demand additional supports to bring out visible improvements in the behavior of autistic kids.
Tantrums are one of the most common behaviors among children – be they autistic or totally fit. They generally scream if they fail to do something that they had wanted to do. It is more about developing skills and independence. It may be because the child is not skilled enough to fully express his emotions. It is quite common for an autistic child to scream hard for simplest causes such as failing to button his shirt or wear his shoes.
They may even break into a scream for as simple a cause that they are asked to go to bed, and they just want to stay up a little more. Though it is common to most of the children, for autistic children, it is just more complex. That is mainly due to the meltdown symptoms that make the screams quite similar to tantrums but are actually not. That calls for the requirement of more specific skill sets and thoughtful responses.
Steps to Deal with Autistic Screams
1. Know if the screams are just tantrums or a result of a meltdown
A different approach is needed to deal with tantrums and meltdowns. Though they appear to be the same to the common eyes, there are many significant differences. Tantrums are a result of frustration whereas meltdowns generally lack a specific goal. They are the outcomes of effects brought in by external stimulations. Hunger, tiredness or physical discomforts may be the reasons of tantrums and are generally an outburst in front of an audience and has specific end goals. But meltdown screams does not require an audience.
It is just that they want to express their sensation. You need first to recognize the differences to help the autistic screams of your child effectively.
2. Remember the difference among every child if it is a tantrum
The techniques that helped you to manage the cries of other children may not be effective for helping the tantrum screams of your autistic child. Look to come up with different methods that can be helpful for your child.
3. Consider removing the audience
If the screams are just for tantrums, removing the audience can be an effective way to deal with it. The audience will include even yourself or any other public present in the area. You may remove your child or just remove yourself to let your child subsidize the screams. If the screams are more common in large groups, consider small grouping gatherings and help them learn to develop their own coping mechanisms to deal with this behavior. Another way of dealing the screams can be just ignoring them.
4. Distract them out of their screams
It does not matter if it is the outcome of a tantrum or a meltdown. Distractions are always effective to stop them from screaming. Just try to change the activity or the topic of discussion or just engage them in something different such as a toy, music or a pet. You can even distract them with future perspectives just to distract them as they continue the activity that brought in the screams at the first place.
It is the best way to deal with meltdown screams. Try to lure them with a gift or something they are already fond of in case the activity that brought in the meltdown is necessary. It will help them to calm down as it is not a result of frustration. You can continue the activity after they calmed themselves down.
These are some of the best ways to help your autistic child cope with their screams. You may even devise your ways to help your child. You being a mother/father of an autistic child are nothing to be disheartened with. Rather you should consider accepting it as a challenge and work harder to help them beat the tantrums and screams.
Do not forget to praise them once the screams are over as it will obviously act as a reward as they work to cope with their own behavior.