We want the best for our daughters. From the moment they enter the world, we are determined to protect our children from harm while simultaneously raising them for the amazing life which lies ahead. However, in our current social-economic climate, it is imperative that we prepare our daughters appropriately. Here are the primary ways to make sure that our daughters grow up to be wonder-women.
The idea of equality implies that men and women are the same; in fact, we are NOT. By focusing on teaching our daughters equity, instead of equality, we are instilling in them the importance it is for them to have the same access to opportunities as men— instead of just being treated in the same way. Equity means we are giving girls the same opportunities to explore their talents and their hobbies just as we do boys in our society.
We are encouraging the daughters we love to become mathematicians, scientists, and leaders, and we are making an active effort to show them female role models which standard media doesn’t show them. It is important to give our daughters the empowerment not to feel inferior, and ultimately providing opportunities for our women to have equity is beneficial to all people.
It can incredibly difficult and frustrating to drop your ego, swallow your pride and say sorry. However, it is a vital skill to teach our children. It is critical to teach your daughter to take accountability for her actions, by admitting when she is wrong and by apologizing.
Having these skills will not only be paramount in your daughter’s personal lives but will also help her in professional situations. By being able to express herself and apologize genuinely, your daughter can go an extremely long way towards mending and building trust in her human interactions and relationships.
Forgiveness frees the mind from past bondage, difficulties, and damaging experiences while allowing us to move on with a sense of peace and dignity. While difficult, forgiveness ultimately leaves us (and the daughters we love) in a more positive state of mind, and gives them the opportunity to learn and grow. Forgiveness is something we do not only for others but for ourselves, whether the other party apologizes for or not.
The most important thing to demonstrate your daughters id the importance to forgive themselves. Teach them to openly and honestly accept their past mistakes, and then how to move on and learn from them. We instill innate kindness in our daughters when we teach them how to forgive themselves and others.
In life, we are often too quick in making decisions at the moment, full of impatience or anger, and often regret our choices later on. It is in these moments where having patience is of the essence; otherwise, our rushed decisions can have serious repercussions. Restraint and self-control can transform relationships, and they play a very important role when making all sorts of decisions.
From small issues, such as wanting to learn to play an instrument, to larger dilemmas, such as waiting to hear back from college applications, your daughter will encounter many different scenarios in which she will need to exercise patience.
There are many things which can be changed if we have the patience to think past a situation. All things which have come will pass, be them good or bad, and time will heal all wounds; having the patience to overcome hardship and wait out the storm is a key to the daughter you love living a fulfilling life.
Stand For Yourself, Always
In this very moment, women around the world are going through various types of abuse. Many are still holding themselves from speaking up the truth for many reasons, ranging from physical safety to mental and psychological abuse which makes them feel as if they cannot.
Many women have been told from childhood that their opinions don’t matter—they have been told that their primary duty is to be beautiful, agreeable, and quiet in the face of adversity. It is for this reason that they don’t how to stand up and voice out their displeasure when they are abused. They feel either that they cannot, that such behavior is normal, or that no one will care or listen to them if they do speak out.
Overcoming fear and feeling the freedom to say what you truly feel and think, especially in a society that does not support the voices of women, is incredibly difficult.
However, it is critical to instill in your daughter the power of her voice as soon as she is able to speak. When we teach the daughters we love to stand up for themselves, their beliefs and their truths, we are giving freedom not only to them but to others who will be empowered by them.
Teach your daughter to know what she really wants because, at some point, people will try to sway and pressure her into thinking or doing something against her beliefs. By giving your daughter a voice, you give her the strength and courage she needs to grow into a proud and resilient woman.
Are you looking for some extraordinary and memorable Christmas activities for your kinds? Here are a couple of enjoyable Christmas activities for your little ones that will definitely put a smile on their faces.
Christmas Movie Marathon
Spending an afternoon or night seeing Christmas motion pictures is definitely something that the whole family will enjoy! Ask each member of the family chooses their favorite holiday flick to watch with the household. Make a huge bowl of delicious popcorn with melted white chocolate and red and green sprinkles or blend pretzels with red and green sweets and delight in. While the kids enjoy their snack, you and your hubby can indulge in some chocolate and a glass of red wine.
Take a walk in your neighborhood to see the beautiful Christmas decorations. You can also take the kids downtown, where they can see the lights and decorations, and smell the Christmas spirit in the air.
Decorating a Christmas tree is probably currently on your to-do list. Make this holiday tradition even more unique by adding a brand-new kid-made Christmas ornament each year. Mark the year on your designs so that you can track when each cutie was created!
Make your own Christmas Ornaments
The holiday season can be a little bit overwhelming especially for working parents. Days are getting shorter and the list is getting longer, so getting your kids to help you out with the holiday preparations is a fantastic idea. Let them create ornaments, decorate the house and the Christmas tree!
Christmas, party and video games, kids love them, who does not? Collect a list of the best Christmas parlor game that will inhabit your little kids. Welcome, all of your family and friends over to share sweet deals with and let the celebration began’.
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Contribute Clothing and Food to a Homeless Shelter
You might also volunteer at a food pantry to help your kids value their blessings. You can ask your kids to contribute the things they don’t need anymore. This way they find out to the value of what they have at the very same thing teaching them the essence of humanity.
Thinking about getting a puppy? Your little ones were begging you to get them a puppy and you finally gave in? But how to choose the perfect breed for your kids?
You might think that any dog, especially if it comes in your family as a puppy, will be great with kids. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. If you are thinking to get a small dog, you really need to make sure that your kids understand that dogs are not toys. Small breeds need extra care and gentle hands. If you are leaning toward a big dog, make sure that the whole family understands that the level of patience and work involved. Big dogs usually need training and daily exercise.
Owning a dog is an important decision, especially if you have small children. Here are the five perfect dogs for a family with kids.
Do you feel taken for granted? Do you feel underappreciated in your relationship? Are you wondering why do you feel the way you feel?
There are various times in our lives when our kind acts of service go unnoticed to others; when we feel our kindness is not valued or appreciated, and when we hardly hear phrases such as, “thank you,” or “I’m grateful.” These periods can be so frustrating that they can put us in a continuously bad mood, and most times we tend to feel impatient when it comes to hearing gratitude from others. Often we can even feel a sense of worthlessness — since no one outwardly acknowledges what we do, it feels as if they really don’t appreciate who we are and what we do doesn’t have real value.
Feeling unappreciated does not only messes with one’s emotions but it also alters the way we think and act. Sometimes we plaster a smile on our faces to hide our true feelings from the world, when, in actual fact, all we want to do is hide. At the end of the day, we feel devastated because we spend so much of our energy pleasing the people around us and our efforts are not reciprocated with a single act of gratitude. During these periods, you might begin to wonder if the things you do for others are really worth the effort; it might be easier to withdraw and isolate yourself from these people who don’t seem to appreciate you and simply stop trying.
While these feelings can be harmful to one’s overall well-being if left unaddressed over a period of time, most times we neglect the negative feelings and just work through it. However, before giving in to a sense of worthlessness, here is a pertinent question to ask yourself, “Why do I care so much if people value me and how can I stop feeling unappreciated?” Although you have no control over other people’s attitudes and actions, there are some things you can do differently that may change their attitude and the way they behave towards you. If you want to learn how to deal with feeling unappreciated and to create a healthy balance between serving others and taking care of yourself then keep reading.
You Need to Value Yourself More
If you are one of those people that lack confidence and have low self-esteem— and what that really means is that you worry about not being good enough, instead of just getting on with just being your own very best— when you’re on a path to feeling unappreciated. The measure of gratitude shown by the people around you should never determine the self-value of what you do; rather, your actions should be based on self-desire.
The value of the service you provide to people should entirely be based on who you are, the quality of the service you feel you can offer, and the esteem you hold for the person to whom you are offering the service.
When you lend your friend twenty dollars for lunch, you should be motivated by a genuine desire to help them. If you feel you have to lend them money or else you will look bad, or if just want them to like you, you are placing your happiness on how they, or others, respond to your actions. By clarifying your self-motivation before lending a helping hand to others, you’ll be able to offer service to people with no strings attached, and won’t require recognition for your good deeds but will welcome it when given.
If you do still feel unappreciated by someone close to you, your misgivings can likely be solved easily through open and honest communication. Explain to your family member or colleague at work how and why you feel unappreciated when your efforts go unnoticed, and how important it is to you that the things you do for them are acknowledged.
Oftentimes others recognize the actions you have made, but due to circumstance, personal obligations, or just plain distractions, they aren’t able to (or simply don’t think to) verbalize their gratitude. It’s also easy for people innocently to overlook the contributions you’ve made, and if you give a gentle reminder, they might happily give you the recognition you crave.
Show Appreciation to Others
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” We are all familiar with the Golden Rule, told to us over and over again as children by our parents and teachers as they tried to instill into us a sense of kindness. However, it is easy to forget this rule in our adult lives—especially if we are already feeling unappreciated. It can be easy to begin harboring resentment towards others when we feel unappreciated, and we feel they are taking us for granted in our lives.
This only starts an unhealthy cycle of bitterness between us and our friends, family, and coworkers, which is very difficult to escape from. In order to break this cycle, it is imperative that you continue to show appreciation for the actions of others, despite how you believe they feel towards you.
Ensure you’re grateful for every act of kindness or service people render to you and say “thank you” regularly. Be earnest in expressing your feelings. By making an effort yourself, you will not only show the people in your life your appreciation for what they do for you, but you will encourage them to do the same towards you. Remember that you are the most valuable asset and you are no good to anybody unless you are good to yourself.
Tips to Raise Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem
Don’t let people walk all over you
Say what you want
Don’t say YES when you mean NO
Be kind to yourself
Get enough sleep
Have ME time
Stand up for yourself
Stay positive and surround yourself by positive people
Many parents want to spend time with their children, and traveling as a family is one of the best ways to create happy memories. Whether it is a simple day trip or a week-long vacation, you want to be prepared to make sure your trip is as safe and stress-free as possible. Traveling with small children requires a lot of patience and preparation, so follow these tips to make the most of your trip as a family.
Do Your Research
Plan ahead so you can set your expectations. Read up on the rules and culture of the place you are going to visit. Always choose a place that is safe. Choose hotel or Airbnb accommodations that are child-friendly and danger-free. If possible, choose an accommodation that is close to the city center or station.
This ensures that you are near food establishments, grocery stores, and tourist attractions so that you do not have to travel very far to go from place to place. If you are planning on dining out, choose family-friendly restaurants to ensure that everyone will have a pleasant experience. When visiting a foreign city, research on the best kid-friendly destinations so that your children will have a wonderful experience.
Pack the Essentials
Travel light, but pack the most important things. Always bring bottled water, snacks, medicine, a first-aid kit, wipes, diapers, travel blankets, feeding essentials, and an extra set of clothes when going out with little kids. Bring a small toy or some form of entertainment that your child can play with while you are on the plane, train, bus or car.
Use a Light Umbrella-Type Stroller
Leave the bulky stroller behind. Use a portable and light-weight stroller that can easily be put away and stored. Do not expect all tourist areas to be stroller-friendly. Be prepared to fold it up and carry it if needed. Some restaurants or establishments might not be able to accommodate large strollers, so it is best to carry a small one that can easily be stored away.
Always have a Presence of Mind
When you are in a new place, it is easy to get over-excited. Never neglect your kids. Do not allow them to wander off by themselves, especially in crowded tourist areas. Keep your travel bag close to your body. If things get overwhelming, stop in a safe place and relax. Keep a head count of everybody and your things.
Put Some Form of Identification/Contact Information in Your Child’s Pocket
In case of an emergency, it is best to place some kind of identification in your child’s pocket. Some parents use a special type of bracelet or tag. Always prepare for the worst, just in case your child gets lost.
Keep Your Itinerary Simple
When traveling with small children, choose one or two places to visit in one day. Always remember that it takes more time and energy when traveling with kids. You will experience a lot of “breaks” – which includes diaper changes, snack breaks, etc. It can get extra tiring for parents and children when you are on the go. So in order to stay happy and sane, don’t go overboard when planning your itinerary.
Most of all, enjoy the moment. Stay chill, take lots of pictures, and savor the experience instead of rushing to go from place to place. When your children are all grown up, they will remember these experiences and will thank you for the beautiful memories you have created as a family.
These nifty tips are shared with us by our friend mommy from Carmela Granada of bellissimamma.it
For those of us who have great mother figures in our life, we know and think often of everything they have done for us. But how often do we show it? Does your mom know how much you appreciate her? While many people rely on flowers and jewelry to express our appreciation for our Mom, it really doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive to show your mother how much she means to you. Spending a little time with her, or simply saying out loud how much she means to her will go a long way in appreciating her and making her feel loved and special. Below are some simple ways to thank your mom for everything she has done.
Have you ever thought how much time are you spending with your mom? Take a little bit from your own sweet time and take your mom out to a restaurant, have a hart to hart conversation and give her a hug. The best ways to show love and appreciation to anyone in your life is by spending time with them, and your mom is no exception. It doesn’t have to be a grand event; even just stopping by to cook her dinner is enough to make her feel loved. If you live far away from your mother, set up a time to video chat her and fill her in on the details of your life.
Rather than planning a huge moment, it is more impactful to check in with your mom regularly and remind her every so often how grateful you are for having her in your life. She enjoys hearing from you and will delight in seeing and talking to you regardless of what you do together. Setting aside some quality time and spend with her doing things she finds fun and engaging will surely be remembered fondly and appreciated.
Say Thank You By Helping Her Without Being Asked To
Enter the habit of helping out with groceries shopping or cleaning the house. From a certain age, simple things like that become pretty difficult. Offer your mom a helping hand before she asks for it. Regardless of her age, everyone appreciated a helping hand, and it will be especially meaningful coming from you, their child.
It’s very probable that her car needs a minor repair, or there is a creaky door that needs to be oiled. Fixing things around the house which haven’t been attended to yet (to the best of your ability—remember, you have Youtube!), or making minor home improvements will also be appreciated by her. Just remember to ask permission before doing it, so she doesn’t feel like you are going behind her back. Offer to come to assist her and she will surely be grateful.
Say Thank You By Doing Something Special
Remember how many special things she has done for you while growing up? Just like you devote specific time to your significant other, it is equally important to create memorable occasions for all of your loved ones, including your mother. Making a reservation just for just the two of you is a great way to show her how much you appreciate her, and it doesn’t necessarily have to be expensive.
It could be a neighborhood restaurant, a picnic with a beautiful view, or someplace tied to special memories the two of you have together. Get two tickets to a show she has been longing to see so the two of you can go together. These are great ideas for things to give her for her birthday or for Mothers Day, yet they become even more extraordinary when they are done on a normal day of the week; it really shows how much you appreciate her in your life.
Say Thank You By Sending Her Gifts
Figure out what she likes and if you can, get it for her. When you give her the gift
make sure you specify why you got it for her. For example, you got her a key hanger shaped like a mountainscape, because when you saw it you thought of how much she liked going camping in the mountains with you growing up. A gift doesn’t have to be expensive, either. Lower cost options include sending her a thank you note, picking her some flowers or even giving her a self-made piece of artwork. The key is to give her something meaningful, and which really shows how much you care.
Sending A Heartfelt Thank You Note
If there has been a particularly rough moment in either of your lives recently if it’s been a while since the two of you spoke, or even if you’re simply feeling extra appreciative, a thank you note to your mom is something that she is sure to appreciate and treasure for years. Take the time to spell out and explain how all of her dedication as your mother has changed your life, and how it has helped to make you the person that you are today. A special thank you note is best in handwritten form since it feels more personalized.
And the end of the day, you love your mom, and she probably knows it. But all of us need reminders every once in a while of how we are appreciated, and your mom is no exception. Any act of reaching out to the mother figure in your life is very important to them, and even if it feels like a small gesture to you, it can mean the world to them.
Regardless of how far away you are or how much money you have, speaking out loud how much your mother means to you will make her feel loved and strengthen the bond between the two of you. So go tell your mother how much you appreciate her, and make her day!